Loving You and them

I have found that the most unsuccessful relationships were those in which I was operating from a place of deficit. Allowing others to feed on me when I was not at my best left me void. Looking back, I don't know if those people knew who I was. How could you be with someone, see the depletion, and do nothing but take it.

Taking is easy; it does not require cognitive effort. All you have to do is reach and allow the other person's love for you to fuel the selfish request of "I need." At the fresh age of 41, I understand the power of loving ME first and others second, third, or fourth, LOL! Loving ME is my priority!

I fight for ME, win for ME, LIVE for ME, and make the best decisions for ME! Self-love is the most underrated statement ever! I hear people say, "I Love ME," but when you break it down, do you? Would that be acceptable if someone treated you the way you sometimes treated you?

We are great at setting a high standard for dating but need that exact requirement for ourselves. I firmly believe that you cannot love others effectively if you do not love yourself first. Avoiding our trauma will sometimes keep us in a place of doing for everyone around us and neglecting ourselves. Sometimes, fixing others is more manageable than working on our own stuff. Now that I have opened this door... ask yourself

1. Am I first? 

2. Do I show myself love? 

3. Am I operating from a place of deficit? 

Write yourself a love letter, and every morning, add something to the letter you did the day before to show yourself love. Do this for 21 days... change the mind to change the behavior. 

Thank you for taking time for you today....Live to Love Unconditionally